The Cure for Judgment

The cure for judgment is not simply acceptance of the other.  The path is slightly more circuitous than that.  The cure for judgment is self-love.  When people lack love for themselves, they move into the world from an unstable base.  In order to try to gain a sense of their place in the world, they begin comparing themselves to others.  When you compare yourself to others, you are in a state of judgment, because no two people are the same and you will always end up with a conclusion that you are better than the other person or they are better than you. 

People, who truly love and value themselves, don't feel the need to compare themselves to others.  Where they do make comparisons, it is with their own performance at an earlier point in time, and their vision of themselves in the future.  They become their own touchstone for achievement and success.  Once you are in this state of feeling in control of your own success, you have a stable base from which to engage with others.  Instead of comparing other people's lives to yours, you are able to allow them their own journey.

When you practice self-love and focus on your own life journey, it is a natural extension to then allow others to do the same.  A person is able to look at another person, without comparing their life to his or her own.  Instead, they support the person to go through a similar process of growth, to become their own touchstone for achievement and success.  A person who doesn't judge is able to respect and celebrate the separate and unique human journey of another person.

The world is divided up between those who practice self-love and those who don't.  Self-love is a long-term disciplined practice, which all human beings struggle with over time.  If you feel that judgement is creeping into your relationships, perhaps this is a signal to stop for a moment, and focus on nurturing yourself.  Revisit your own goals, acknowledge yourself, reconnect with your support circle, celebrate your magnificence, and then feel the judgment simply fall away!!

Releasing Judment ICA module